I’ve been caring for people and creatures ever since I was a little girl. I don’t think my affinity for helping others was a decision, it just seemed the natural thing to do. I was the girl who would either jump in the middle of the fray to stop a fight, or if the kids were too big, I’d go hide with my hands over my ears and my eyes shut tight so I wouldn’t hear or see the punches being thrown. I did not see myself as brave, rather, it was just too painful to see people and creatures hurting one another. Being told repeatedly I was overly sensitive, I strove for much of my life to over-come this supposed character defect. Mine is a journey spent unearthing and experiencing the transformational powers of self-discovery. For many years I did not have the support needed to go deep or broad enough to make lasting changes, and as a result of this, I lived much of my life feeling ‘half-finished’. My life experiences are similar to many of the women I have been blessed to work with—squelched dreams, chronic illness, divorce, sexual trauma, learning disabilities, and addiction to name but a few. Yet over time, I learned the discipline, commitment, humility and the role of healthy support that is part of every transformational journey. I have spent years sitting in counsel with my soul and spirit, and many wise teachers and mentors. I have firsthand experience of the wonders of walking the transformation path. Now, I’m blessed to lead others on this amazing journey.
Thank you for reading my story and getting to know me. I hope someday soon, to have the pleasure of knowing your story, too.
Dr. Faivre became a trusted professional and friend as she escorted me through some difficult passages in my life. Carolyn’s deep connection with her own intuition and inner guidance led her to provide both emotional and physical healing support that were invaluable to me. I highly recommend her as a caring, thoughtful presence as you travel on your life’s path.
Roberta S, SD
From as early as I can remember, I never felt like I quite fit in. I often felt awkward, naïve, stupid. The roles I thought I was assigned were to be cute, which I never felt I was, and to be mother’s helper, at which I excelled though was often overwhelmed by the responsibility. As a child, my dream was to become a famous artist and writer. These creative urgings were largely squelched, and I took this to mean I wasn’t good enough to go after what I wanted. My coping strategy was to try and have it both ways: please my parents on the outside and sneak moments to do and have what I wanted. This pattern continued well into my adulthood, impacting all my relationships and resulting in an ongoing battle with exhaustion and chronic fatigue. But, my soul’s longing was deep and tenacious, and didn’t give up easily! I have found that many people I work with also have this kind of ‘hide-it, yet seek it’ coping strategy. You are not alone!
Growing up I struggled with undiagnosed learning difficulties, so writing was a challenge, and I was deemed not fit for college. I married at 19, a three year nightmare of violence and sexual trauma. Isolated on an army base, my life saver was college. It was the first step into the world of self-discovery and healing. I took every psychology course I could, trying to figure out what was wrong with me that I couldn’t stop the abuse in my marriage. While I didn’t find an answer to that question, I managed to graduate–with honors. I spent the next 18 months working with children who had learning and emotional disorders, all the while narrowly escaping that relationship with my life, though not my health, intact.
Part of recovering my health was—more school! I entered graduate school in the 1976, met the man I would later marry. We raised four children and ran a Chiropractic clinic. We thought we had everything we needed to succeed—after all, we both had graduate degrees in psychology. This relationship lasted 24 years. Looking back, I can see how my inability to live my soul’s longing may have doomed any chances for true partnership. If I could not be fully present to myself, how could I be fully present to another? I continued my learned behavior of ‘hide-it yet seek-it’, dipping my toes into several creative endeavors, always withdrawing in fear, doubting my abilities. My desire for a solution to my discomfort continued. I enrolled in a doctoral program in clinical psychology, though had to drop out because of adrenal issues and chronic fatigue. I became an expert in the field of child sexual abuse working as both a clinician and an investigator. The work, though rewarding, was grueling, and once again, I succumbed to exhaustion.
In the mid 1990’s a series of critical events began which over the next six years shifted my life in the direction of living my Purpose and my dreams. During this time a number of indigenous teachers came into my life. I learned the spiritual heritage of the land I was born upon. The experience of learning the ways of the indigenous people of our country healed and grounded me. I reconnected with nature, a connection I had let go of when my grandparents moved from their forest property when I was 10. Healing lodges and vision quests relieved many of my fears. I studied body psychotherapy, and Self-Acceptance Training. Though I found I still could not fully embody my dreams or longings, all these experiences were crucial parts of my journey learning how to find my True place in the world.
In 1998 I became the first Energy Medicine PhD in the world, becoming a professor, teaching and mentoring students at the graduate level. All this study earned me innumerable skills and tools which have benefitted me greatly in both my work as a clinician and an intuitive mentor. Still, I struggled, not yet home in my own skin. During this time, my marriage fell apart. Eventually, my journey slipped into more self-destructive behaviors, including alcohol abuse, which led me to seek recovery. I believe these difficult life experiences were put to good use by my Soul, deepening and strengthening my own transformation and my ability to serve others on their personal journeys.
As I reflect back, I understand exactly why I did NOT feel at home in my own skin, I spent much of my life living inside the skin of who I thought others wanted me to be.
There is a story I will always remember from the time I spent in Intuition Training with Caroline Myss and Norm Shealy. During a small group session, I shared my story, and Caroline reached over, put her hand on my knee and said to me, “Carolyn, you and I are like the two caterpillars on a branch. One looks up and, seeing a butterfly winging over her head, says to the other ‘you’ll never get me up in one of those things’.” I came to see my butterfly-self as the part of me determined to come out of the cocoon of metamorphosis so I can fly, finally claiming my real birthright. The people I’m privileged to work with are also like the caterpillar, not in their ‘birthright skin’. If you resonate, you are not alone, and given time and cocooning support, you will transform, for that is what the cocoon does. It offers a safe place for transformation to complete the metamorphosis into the butterfly you were born to be. Butterfly research shows it’s important not to interfere with unfoldment of the butterfly’s wings, or the butterfly will not be able to fly. My work holds the intention of noninterference, while encouraging, holding space, reassuring and mentoring the process of my clients becoming at home in their own true skin.
Carolyn received her Doctor of Philosophy degrees in Energy Medicine in July of 1998 from Greenwich University and March of 2000 from HOLOS University Graduate School. She completed her Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology from Illinois State University in 1978, and graduated Cum Laude from Fayetteville State University extension of North Carolina State University in 1975 with a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology.
In May of 2001, Carolyn completed an intensive four-year certification program in Core Energetic Therapy. Following post-graduate study, she received her ordination in the International Science of Mind Church for Spiritual Healing in March of 2002. In 2008 she completed her certification in Holographic Memory Resolution, which is an in-depth body/mind trauma and pain resolution process.
Dr. Faivre served an Assistant Professor at HOLOS University Graduate School from 2002 through the spring of 2008, teaching Literature Survey and Somatic Therapies curriculum as well as serving as chairperson and committee member of numerous Doctoral Dissertations and Master Theses in the studies of Energy Medicine and Spiritual Healing. In addition to facilitating the Circle of Self ®. Carolyn also maintains a separate private practice in Body Oriented Psychotherapy, and Energy Psychology. She is licensed as an LCPC (Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor) in the state of Illinois.
Her work draws on her training and experience in Clinical Psychology, Core Energetic Therapy (a type of psychotherapy which works with the emotions through the body), training in Intuitive studies, Spiritual Direction and Counseling Studies, Self-Acceptance Training, Grief and Trauma Resolution Trainings, and more than 27 years experience in the ‘helping professions’. She brings to her work as teacher, spiritual healer, therapist and personal growth facilitator, a wide range of processes and tools for removing the obstacles that keep people from living fully and abundantly and finding their own center of self. Circle of Self ™ is a culmination of not only her professional studies, but also an abundance of life experiences.”